Getting the Best Out of Your Relationship
Thu, April 22, 2021

Getting the Best Out of Your Relationship

A relationship is not as simple as most of us have imagined it to be. The ever-changing world has also made it more complex and challenging. Indeed, a good relationship does not develop overnight / Photo by: fizkes via Shutterstock

 

A relationship is not as simple as most of us have imagined it to be. The ever-changing world has also made it more complex and challenging. Indeed, a good relationship does not develop overnight. Commitment, compromise, forgiveness, and effort are necessary to make the best of a relationship. A lot of experts agree that the following “rules” must be followed to make this happen.

 

Listen to Nana

In the last few decades, relationship dynamics have changed for the better. Women are now financially independent and more vocal about their desires. Men, on the other hand, have become more emotionally intelligent and expressive about their feelings. But, even in this modern way of thinking, the guidance provided by grandmas is still applicable today as they were years earlier. While most will be deemed outdated by today’s standards, a lot still will prove valuable when it comes to building a strong relationship that will stand the test of time.

- Do not stop making romantic gestures for your partner. Continue the romance by whispering sweet nothings or stealing kisses, or giving a gift however simple and inexpensive it is even on ordinary days.

- Make an effort to look your best for your partner. Sure, you may be too tired after a full day of work or household chores, but make the effort to clean up and look good before you see each other at night. Additionally, making yourself look good also have a positive impact on yourself, not just on your partner.

- Feminism may be the rule but a boosting man’s ego will increase the sex drive tenfold. Isn’t this worth a try?

 - Pay attention and compliment your partner’s appearance and intelligence. Make them feel sexy and desired. Talk and listen and never ignore each other.

- Greet each other with a kiss or a hug when coming home. Enjoy a home-cooked meal together. Studies show that eating together boosts intimacy between couples.

-Spend quality time together. Hold hands while taking a walk, watch an art exhibit, have a picnic, or slurp a favorite ice cream or milk tea—together. The key is to enjoy the simple things in life with one another.

- Give each other space so you can do whatever you want to do on your own. Make room for boys’ or girls’ night out.

- Find humor in everything. Research found that partners that laugh together stay together.

- Get off the phone when you’re on a date with your partner. Gaze at each other’s eyes instead of the screen of your gadget. Science says that prolonged eye-gazing can fan the flames of love. Hold hands.

- Get intimate often. Regular sex strengthens the bond between partners as it gives a sense of meaning in life. Experts say that the average adult enjoys sex 54 times a year (about once a week). Explore and experiment to add spice into your sex life.

- If you’re not married yet, don’t go for a live-in arrangement. Studies revealed that couples who live together before marriage are at greater risk for divorce in general. Take things slowly.

- Send love letters and sweet notes, they will never become outdated. Such gestures are innately romantic.

- Be honest. Experts say that honesty and good communication are the foundation of a healthy relationship.

- Be a team and have each other’s back. Do not fight in public. Make household chores fair.

Sex “Rules” For Partners

The key to a fulfilling relationship is to change and formulate your own sex rules. But take note that rules are not cast in stone; they should grow and change with the relationship.

One of the best ways to guarantee a robust sex life is to have lots of sex early in the relationship. A study by the University of Georgia reveals that the longer a couple lives together, the less often they have sex but the decline is relative to how much sex they had at the beginning of their relationship. For example a couple who have had twice a week sex at the beginning of a relationship will have sex three times a month after 10 years of relationship; sex three times a week at the beginning of the relationship means twice-a-week sex after 10 years of relationship; and sex four times a week at the beginning of the relationship foretells twice- to thrice-a-week sex after a decade of relationship.

 Studies also showed that the more sex a couple has, the happier they are together. The right quantity of sex is the quantity that makes both partners happy. In another study, it was revealed that both partners normally want seduction, instructions, and experimentation. Men want their partners to initiate sex more often and be less inhibited in the bedroom. Women, on the other hand, want love, tenderness, and compliments both in and out of the bedroom.

The key to a fulfilling relationship is to change and formulate your own sex rules. But take note that rules are not cast in stone; they should grow and change with the relationship / Photo by: G-Stock Studio via Shutterstock

 

Making Relationships Last

Various studies recommend ways to strengthen relationships to make them last. Here are some of them:

- Stay generous and express your affection over and over again. Do small things for your partner.

- Talk things out and make decisions intentionally and thoughtfully. Use relationships to enhance personal growth.

- To strengthen relationships, ask less from your partner. Encourage outside friendships for emotional support and take a breather from the demands of the relationship.

- Watch sentimental shows together to work out challenges in the real world. Romantic comedies can be an intensive form of relationship therapy. Talking about the issues in the show can be a non-threatening opportunity for constructive communication on the highs and lows in relationships. The goal is to set communication working.

Remember that couples exploring new places and trying new things will widen views of life and raise the level of commitment.