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It is a parent's job to make sure that their children grow up to be good people. Being a good person doesn’t stop with showing respect and integrity in certain situations; it also includes showing great confidence and high self-esteem when things get rough.
Kids who are raised with confidence are said to be capable of doing better in different aspects of life compared to those who are riddled with anxiety and self-doubt. Verywell Family, a website that provides helpful tips about parenting, mentioned in their article that having confidence in one's physical appearance can make one feel empowered and thrive in their respective fields of interest.
Being physically confident is not just about displaying athletic prowess, but that is also a part of it. Children who are confident in their bodies will be assured that they can try new things and take on new challenges. They are also secured in their ability to handle the consequences of exploring new things, but they are aware that there are limitations that they need to overcome once they commit to it.
To promote physical confidence to your child, parents must assume the responsibility of being a good role model. Avoid making excuses when doing physical activities, especially if you believe that it’s hard. It is important to balance the pros and cons of the situation in front of you because, who knows? The results might surprise the both of you.
If you believe that your children are capable of making a simple decision for themselves, parents can try to practice their decision-making skills as early as possible. Singapore’s Child, a monthly magazine full of information for parents, suggested on their website that although kids are not expected to make decisions for themselves all the time, they can start early with small tasks.
Whether it is buying a new toy or choosing the family's summer activities, parents must trust their kids' young minds to make decisions for themselves. Allow them to have a voice during family discussions by inviting their opinions on big or small issues in the family. It is also advisable to avoid disregarding their opinions just because they are younger than the rest of the family. This can just make them feel that their opinions are not valid.
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Avoid making safety nets all the time
Parents can be overprotective, and this can sometimes make a child feel more afraid about what’s in store for them instead of feeling prepared and safe. Parents should practice allowing their children to let them do things on their own. One can still be protective of a child while giving them the freedom to explore and get to know the things around them. It is also a good thing to encourage their curiosity since this will drive them to explore the rest of the world.
Kids will always seek the truth behind everything. According to Lifehack, the leading source of practical and adaptable knowledge dedicated to improving life, parents must learn how to get past the nerve-wracking thought of letting their children grow independent. Remember that once the child learns to be dependent on their own abilities, it means that they have developed self-confidence and assurance that they can overcome the adversities in front of them.
You can give them a headstart by providing them with the adequate tools and encouragement they will need once they are on their own. However, be prepared for the fact that without the safety net laid out for them, children can commit mistakes along the way.
Experience is the best teacher
“Parents should instill the value that we can all learn from our mistakes, and then let them go,” says John Kelley, CEO of CoachUp. Parents can start by asking their children about their day and allowing them to admit the mistakes and failures they experienced. This way, they can help in diminishing the fear of facing their failures while also encouraging them to try to see things from different perspectives.
Kids can also learn the value of accepting one’s mistake if we tell them that adults also commit mistakes once in a while. Confidence doesn’t only happen when facing a situation head-on, but it is also necessary when trying to bounce back after a setback. Teaching a child how to be resilient will help them convert their mistakes into a teaching experience, which will allow them to realize what could be done to lead them to their goals.
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We all have different ways of expressing our feelings, especially affirmations. But since most kids have a simple concept of how affirmations are done, adults must learn how to praise and support them verbally. Children love hearing positive feedback and knowing that they did the right thing, and this will make them feel that the people that matter most to them also have confidence in them.