Challenging the Norm: Gay Parenting
Tue, April 20, 2021

Challenging the Norm: Gay Parenting

There have been studies that show how kids of gay parents actually grow up to be the same as those from heterosexual couples, but there are still issues among gay couples about acceptance and child-rearing capabilities / Photo by: belchonock via 123RF

 

The world is crucially evolving to become more accepting. Unlike decades ago, gay parenting would be an uncommon and unacceptable thing to see, or even think about. However, most communities today are opening their doors to this new kind of family unit. Although there isn’t really any difference when it comes to being a parent, most gay couples find some notions to be very challenging, especially if they are living in a community that is not so open-minded about how gay couples are the same as heterosexual ones.

According to the Canadian Nanny page, a website that focuses on childcare and support, some people still cannot understand the kinds of problems and challenges most gay parents face, especially when it comes to raising their children to be part of a larger community. There have been studies that show how kids of gay parents actually grow up to be the same as those from heterosexual couples, but there are still issues among gay couples about acceptance and child-rearing capabilities.

There are numerous stories and incidents in many countries around the world about how most parents and their children are being discriminated at schools, usually in the form of bullying and teasing from fellow classmates. This becomes even worse when the parents of such bullies are involved, and are not understanding enough to accept that gay parents actually exist in society nowadays. Much of the issue being thrown at gay parents involves the kind of upbringing they give their child, with most people believing that gay people cannot really nurture a loving home environment. This creates fear among certain groups, especially on the side of gay parents since they might end up always being on the lookout for those who might taunt or bully them.

Social Issues

The mere fact that being gay is not really and fully embraced by most people is a clear sign that there are still many challenges for gay parents to overcome. Most people will say that it is very unnatural for a gay couple to have children, but advances in medicine have made it possible for these members of the LGBTQ community to actually have kids of their own. The process may be different, but it does not mean that the process itself is wrong. Most heterosexual couples also turn to science when they are having difficulties conceiving a child naturally. However, in the end, the outcome is still a human child worthy of love, care, and respect.

As with all the other processes, most gay parents also find it difficult to have children if surrogacy is not allowed in a particular area. However, for those couples who really want to have children, adoption and fostering will always be an available option for them to have their own child.

Whatever the process of getting the child, gay parents must also be sure that they are raising a child in an environment that is loving and safe, as mentioned on the Pride Angel website, a page that caters to LGTBQ couples who want to become parents. Sexuality should never be an issue because parenting is a universal concept, and good parenting is something all parents aim for.

It is very common for children of gay parents to be discriminated or bullied at school. That is why education about acceptance should be started, especially among teachers who can sometimes become host to all the negative connotations about children of gay parents. Urban areas tend to experience less of this discrimination since there are various types of families and even minorities living there.

In recent studies, it has been shown that children of gay parents are somehow more understanding and empathetic towards other children. This can be due to the fact that what they have experienced, discrimination or bullying, is unfair, and they are able to identify with that kind of thinking and emotion.

The mere fact that being gay is not really and fully embraced by most people is a clear sign that there are still many challenges for gay parents to overcome / Photo by: Fabio Formaggio via 123RF

 

Parenting Tips

If you are a gay parent, or you know someone who is, there is always hope that someday, gay parents will be accepted worldwide and discrimination will cease to exist. While waiting for that, however, here are some things gay parents can do in order to make sure that they and their children will have a very loving home:

(*) Communicate

Though the arrangement may be different from others, gay couples should be able to tell their children about how it is different from others', and what to expect from being in a non-traditional family.

(*) Talk to the teachers

Teachers are like second parents. As much as possible, tell your child’s teachers about your family situation so that they can help you make other people understand and treat the situation normally.

(*) Join communities

There are several communities that give support to gay parents and help gay couples overcome common challenges. As much as possible, try and contact these groups so that you’ll have ears that will listen to your concerns.

(*) Follow a reflective practice

If you, yourself, are not really accepting of other people, whether from a different culture, class, or social status, then your child will also be the same.

If you are a gay parent, or you know someone who is, there is always hope that someday, gay parents will be accepted worldwide and discrimination will cease to exist / Photo by: lightfieldstudios via 123RF