|One thing that is currently waning in today’s society is the concept of being positive. Most people in society are becoming too stoic, apathetic, and negative about themselves and their environment / Photo by: iakovenko via 123RF|
One thing that is currently waning in today’s society is the concept of being positive. Most people in society are becoming too stoic, apathetic, and negative about themselves and their environment. Perhaps social factors and the changing society are affecting people’s mindsets and thoughts of the world around them. In fact, most kids are becoming less aware of their abilities, and somehow, lose confidence in the things that they can do, and the way they can affect people in a positive manner.
According to the Understood Org page, a website that specializes in giving focus to people who are considered to be different due to their learning differences, self-esteem can be defined as something that makes people believe in their importance to the world, the people around them, and society in general. This could be a little bit difficult to instill in a child who is having some problems at home or school, or kids that have learning difficulties. However, every parent should know that raising their child’s self-esteem will definitely start at home. There is no other place in the world to foster positive thinking than the home.
Boosting Self-Esteem in Children
One of the best things you can impart to your child is to make sure that he has a high regard for himself, and all the good things he does at home and outside. Many factors can affect this positive outlook, such as bullying and negative media. However, you can always assure your child that he is an important part of this world, and he should stay confident and positive.
According to an article on Today’s Parent, a site that publishes write-ups on good parenting, there are certain ways to build self-esteem in your children, without overdoing it. Sometimes, parents tend to do things so excessively, they do not notice the negative effects of their actions on their children. Here are some ways to build your children's self-esteem.
(*) Let them do things
Some parents are so protective of their children, they do not allow them to experience things on their own. This could have an adverse effect on how they view the world and how they communicate with other people. If you can bear to, just step back a little bit so that your child can make decisions for himself. Start by letting them choose the clothes they want to wear, or answer school homework alone. This can also help them become independent.
(*) Never overpraise
Children with high self-esteem are actually those who are loved and feel secure about their environment. However, this could hurt them if you praise them too often. When parents praise their child too much, the level of satisfaction and expectation that the child has becomes lower. This is because the child will think that whatever they do is already fine to begin with. Such a situation will make your child less competent when they grow up. What’s even worse is that some children will know if their parents are just giving them compliments to make them feel good -- something that could also be considered lying.
|If you can bear to, just step back a little bit so that your child can make decisions for themselves / Photo by: Katarzyna Białasiewicz via 123RF|
(*) Give them room for choices
This involves letting your child act on his own, and if problems arise, letting him solve those as well. Taking chances and healthy risks are important for children to be able to make choices for themselves. They will also understand which things would be rewarding, and which things could be detrimental for them. It will allow your child to be more open to different experiences.
(*) Ask for their help
Most parents will agree that raising children is difficult and exhausting, which can be more tiring if you have more than one child at home. It would benefit you if you could ask and let your children help out at home so that some of the work can be lifted from your shoulders. You may not know this, but this can actually help in building self-esteem in kids. They can show their competence at an early age by contributing to things at home. You can ask them to set the table or fix their beds, and you can praise them if they do a good job.
(*) Let them choose what they want to do
If you find out that your child is interested in singing, dancing, painting, and other activities, let them take part in it and encourage them more. Once they start a task, it will be fulfilling for them if they are able to finish them. You’ll find that your child is happier once they finish a beautiful painting or once they are able to finish singing a song.
All in all, parents should be able to make sure that their children are positive and confident about who they are. It might require some extra focus from parents, but the end results should be fulfilling: a child ready to face anything in the world.
|All in all, parents should be able to make sure that their children are positive and confident about who they are / Photo by: Dragan Grkic via 123RF|