|Puppies are God-given creatures, which is why it is hard to admit that having one could be a disaster in the making / Photo by: damedeeso via 123RF|
Adopting a puppy doesn’t always come with a happy ending. It might be an exciting idea at first but there could come a time when the dog owner realizes they can’t take the added responsibility of taking care of another living being anymore. Arguably, there are only a few people in the world who will bravely admit that they can't have these cute little furry babies around.
Puppies are God-given creatures, which is why it is hard to admit that having one could be a disaster in the making. Questions will run around in your mind, centering on the responsibility of having puppies and realizing that they are the ones that are stressing you out. But you should not take this too seriously as this is just normal especially for new puppy owners.
In an article published by Little Things, a website that provides high-quality content about lifestyle, it was explained that this experience is known as “puppy blues” similar to postpartum depression, a well-documented condition that many new human mothers experience.
Defining Puppy Blues
Also known as “postpartum puppy depression,” puppy blues are not an actual psychiatric condition. However, it is noted that it is a valid struggle that new puppy owners experience. It’s characterized by feelings of sadness, exhaustion, numbness, anxiety, and other difficult feelings right after having a new puppy in the house.
Fido Savvy, a website that specializes in articles about pets, stated that puppy depression can also happen to those who have already owned dogs before. Even adding a new pack member can cause stress and surprises that include additional responsibilities. The anxieties and overwhelming feelings that are associated with having a new dog is a result of many hopes and plans for the new member of the family.
These can easily wash away the fuzzy and warm feelings linked to pet ownership. It could also hit quickly right after you take to the road to get your new companion home. The thoughts such as how could you keep this puppy healthy and happy at the same time can turn dark easily, and several days or weeks later, pet owners might realize the amount of effort that is involved in raising one.
|These can easily wash away the fuzzy and warm feelings linked to pet ownership. It could also hit quickly right after you take to the road to get your new companion home / Photo by: inesbazdar via 123RF|
Battling Puppy Blues
Wanting a puppy is different from owning one. But new pet owners should not feel guilty about feeling overwhelmed with the idea of having one. It is normal to feel that way especially if you admit that it is a responsibility that should be taken seriously. Metro UK, the United Kingdom's highest-circulation print newspaper, explained that pet owners should anticipate several things that might cause them to regret their decision. Fortunately, there are also several things that one can do to mitigate the situation.
Planning and scheduling are the most effective weapons against anxiety. In the case of puppy blues, pet owners should equip themselves with proper time management with their dogs. Right before the dog arrives, you must be prepared by dividing the time spent in playing and training the puppy, and your time with yourself and other members of the family.
Learn what to expect
Now that information is easily accessible, thanks to the internet, would-be pet owners can research on the things that might happen once they adopt a dog. Little Things also noted that it is helpful to manage your expectations. Your experience with your pet will be different from the things that the funny videos on the internet show you. Being prepared for what to expect will also make you less overwhelmed.
Having unrealistic expectations are also the reason why depression in new puppy/dog owners happens. People tend to create their adorable fantasies about how their lives will turn out once they have their own pet companion. But, keep in mind that fantasy is far from reality although you can always expect dogs to give their owners unconditional love, loyalty, and acceptance. They will also provide companionship and protection that they will maintain until the last days of their lives.
If Things Fail, Don’t Blame the Dog!
Expectations can make things go south easily. Stress and frustration might make pet owners irritable and grumpy, but that doesn’t mean that you will take your puppy’s behavior personally. Puppies are still learning how to obey their owners. If you get angry at them when they pee directly on your couch or chew off your favorite shoes, remember that dogs are not smart enough to have a grudge against you.
Pet owners might lose their patience, sure and that’s normal. But yelling, intimidating, spanking or any form of physical punishment shouldn’t be the case ever. Avoid being too harsh on them because they have feelings that can get hurt too.
Most importantly, be patient with yourself. Just like any form of responsibility, there’s no express lane that one can take. It’s okay not to feel happy all the time around your pet, instead, go easy on yourself by being kinder to you and your puppy. Soon enough, you’ll see why owning a pet is one of the greatest gifts anyone can receive.
|Expectations can make things go south easily. Stress and frustration might make pet owners irritable and grumpy, but that doesn’t mean that you will take your puppy’s behavior personally / Photo by: warrengoldswain via 123RF|