The Allure of Psychopaths
Thu, October 21, 2021

The Allure of Psychopaths

A recent study in Canada did show that the higher a man scored on the psychopathy test, the more attractive he was considered by women / Photo by: Anna Bal via Wikimedia Commons

 

Why do psychopaths seem so intriguing, so fascinating, and so alluring? Is it because of the buzz and sexy portrayal of hot actors in movies like “Joker” (Joaquin Phoenix) “American Psycho” (Christian Bale) or “Extremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vile” (Zac Efron)? Perhaps yes, and a recent study in Canada did show that the higher a man scored on the psychopathy test, the more attractive he was considered by women. Is this something women should be wary about?

 

What is a Psychopath?

According to Dr. Prakash Masand, a psychiatrist and founder of the Centers for Psychiatric Excellence, a psychopath in psychiatry is antisocial personality disorder (APSD) translated to mean someone who goes against society, commonplace behaviors, and rules. It should never be confused to mean someone reserved, who keeps to himself, or a loner. What is scarier is the findings published in the journal Evolutionary Psychological Science that said that in the spectrum of romance, there are sexual mimics who appear exciting and attractive by partner choice standards but have underlying nature and character that point toward deception and loose commitments. Psychologists from Ontario, Canada put forward that psychopathy may be a ploy to charm and draw sexual partners. Psychopathic men may simulate more appealing and desirable personalities that women prefer in dating encounters.

According to Dr. Prakash Masand, a psychiatrist and founder of the Centers for Psychiatric Excellence, a psychopath in psychiatry is antisocial personality disorder (APSD) translated to mean someone who goes against society, commonplace behaviors, and rules / Photo by: Moses via Wikimedia Commons

 

Dating a Psychopath

The likelihood of dating a psychopath is scarce as they only make up 1 percent of the population. But who knows, there is always a chance you may, unfortunately, find yourself in a relationship with one of them. Here are some signs to look for to avoid this pitfall:

- Psychopaths are very charismatic. The charming façade of psychopaths is too hard to resist. But women should bear in mind that behind this charm is manipulation. The manipulative trait makes them more likely to be successful at finding partners to have sex with. Do not be deceived and fall into their twisted traps as what they are displaying is just insincere and superficial charm.

- Psychopaths are pathologic liars. A defining characteristic of psychopaths is their constant lying to cover up their true selves. Be warned, anyone can be duped even during a brief interface with psychopaths.

- Relationships with psychopaths move very fast. Accelerated relationships between older people are normal but with psychopaths, these mean control and invasion. These spell disaster as there will definitely be cunning agenda behind them. They may seem absolutely perfect upfront, saying sweet and persuasive words to your ears—exactly what you want to hear. They would even become what you want them to be. According to David Gillespie, author of “Taming Toxic People: The Science of Identifying and Dealing With Psychopaths At Work and At Home,” psychopaths will be the best lovers, the most sharing persons just to entrap their potential victims.

Psychopaths are very charismatic. The charming façade of psychopaths is too hard to resist. But women should bear in mind that behind this charm is manipulation / Photo by: gracinistudios via Pixabay

 

- Psychopaths bring in a third party. After feeling secure and blissful in their partner’s arms, psychopaths will bring in a third party, usually, an ex-lover/girlfriend just to reinforce their egos that other people want and care for them. This is one way of telling their present partners to be grateful that they have them.

- Psychopaths expect the best. They want the most beautiful and desirable person in the room. They are extremely arrogant and think they are worthy of great success. They have the ever-present air of superiority surrounding them.

- Psychopaths gaslight their partners. The confidence felt by their women partners at the start of the relationships are little by little diminished until only feelings of worthlessness are left behind. The psychopath knows how to hit the most vulnerable areas and prey upon them.

- Psychopaths have no real emotional attachments. Psychologist John M. Grohol, the founder of Psych Central, said psychopaths develop fake, shallow relationships calculated to be controlling and scheming in the manner that most benefits them. They see people as pawns to be used to attain their goals. They seldom feel guilt regarding their behaviors, even if they hurt others.

- Psychopaths trap partners. They control the women they are with. It would be hard to escape their schemes, whether this is immediate living together, joint bank accounts, investments, or ventures.

Psychopaths make partners feel grateful to them, focused and dependent on them. They isolate their partners from friends and social circle to completely control them. This “loving” dependency tricks their women to submission. As their partners feel more disconnected from others, psychopaths let their partners know that they have to be grateful they have them in their lives.

Thoughts to Ponder

In movies or in books, psychopaths are impressively impossible to ignore. They live on excitement, igniting women with their powerful charms. Women cannot resist their overwhelming confidence and good looks that they are drawn to them and hooked helplessly.

In real life, relationships with psychopaths are so limiting and confining. At the start, women may feel excited and important at the attention bestowed upon them. The warmth and emotional attachment exhibited by the psychopaths make them succumb to the love they assume their partner feels for them. When the true character appears and reveals itself, it is too late! The real-life drama will be an ugly mess. So dear ladies, beware!