|Making your kids follow your command is not always easy. Many times it comes with either bribes or an endless amount of yelling / Photo by: Jan Andersen via 123RF|
Making your kids follow your command is not always easy. Many times it comes with either bribes or an endless amount of yelling. But this should not be the case, as there are several things that a parent can do to raise obedient children. These methods are more effective and definitely less stressful for you and for your child.
Make Them Realize the Importance of Chores
In order to make someone listen and follow your command, they need to know the importance of the task. According to Life Hack, a website that provides life-saving tips, teaching your kids about chores at a younger age is important. It helps in promoting their development and allows children to prove that they are capable of handling the real world even at a young age.
When children get used to having the things that they want without needing to exert any effort, it will make them less likely to be willing to work for something that they want, as they expect it to be given them. When they grow up, they will know first-hand how important hard work can be. Although they might not like it at first, they will soon get used to the routine of doing chores without being reminded.
Demonstrate the Task
For younger children, making them participate in doing chores routinely should start by helping them out. The Spruce, a website that provides information about home decor, home repair, and pets, explained that pitching in your ideas to make the task easier will help the children embrace it.
You can also make the task more fun and ensure that there will be less mess compared to if you let the kid do it on their own. So, instead of barking at them to clean their room, make sure that they know what the room is supposed to look like when it’s clean. Give them the right direction by telling and then showing them calmly how to get it done.
|For younger children, making them participate in doing chores routinely should start by helping them out / Photo by: Ratthaphon Bunmi via 123RF|
Consider What the Child Is Currently Doing
Before telling them to clean their room or do a chore, check your child first. See if they’re in the middle of doing something. It might be a school project, or a video game, or something else that’s not a chore or homework. Consider that they also have their own time, and it is rude to disrupt someone while they’re doing something.
Care.com, an online community that shares network for parents and caregivers, mentioned in their website that there are kids who have trouble transitioning from one activity to another. This is why it is important to let them finish first what they’re doing before having them do something else.
Keep in mind that young children may still have trouble communicating their thoughts on the reason why they don’t want to stop what they are currently doing. Sarah Conway, Ph.D., founder of Mindful Little Minds, said, “Kids don’t like being interrupted while they’re in the middle of something they enjoy any more than we do. Additionally, it’s much harder for kids to change direction when they are engaged in something, so it’s definitely not the best time to tell them to clean their room or start their homework!”
Choose Age-Appropriate Chores
Before handing out a task to your child, make sure that your child can handle it. Keep in mind that young children are in the process of developing their mental and motor skills, and there are some things that they cannot do. Their limitations will make tasks that are inappropriate for age even harder and it can lead to frustration on their part, worse, even physical injury.
Your kids can get a lot of cleaning in their own way, but if they are incapable of handling cleaning materials, you can have them use their old socks, putting them on their hands to dust off tabletops. Parents can also ask their preschooler children to learn how to make their own beds properly, but make sure that you have a lot of patience in teaching them how to do it properly.
Add a Dash of Fun
Doing chores can be made fun, but only if you put an effort into it. It doesn’t have to be filled with drama and a lot of yelling. The Spruce mentioned on their website that parents can turn household chores into a fun activity where they can enjoy themselves and their time with their family. For example, you can make cleaning up a mini-basketball game with a garbage can serving as the basket and all the trash as the basketball. Whoever puts the most trash in wins the game.
“The ability to laugh and be silly is a gift to moms and dads, the next time your child seems to be turning you out when you ask her to wash up, get creative,” said Tovah Klein, Ph.D., director of the Barnard College Toddler Center and author of “How Toddlers Thrive.”
|Doing chores can be made fun, but only if you put an effort into it. It doesn’t have to be filled with drama and a lot of yelling / Photo by: choreograph via 123RF|